Never Can Say Good-Buy

Filene’s Basement is closing.  For good.  This week.  Where’s my black armband and veil?

Today I wore a black leather Kenneth Cole car coat that I bought from Filene’s Basement in 1996.  The coat is a classic double-breasted style with roomy pockets.  It’s heavy with a silk Sunback lining.  The leather is a bit distressed on the seams and around the buttonholes, and all the buttons have been replaced.  The coat was relined was in 2006.  It always gets compliments and is widely coveted by friends and strangers.  I’m thinking about handcuffing it to myself whenever I wear it.  Anyone who tries to steal it gets me as part of the deal. 

Filene’s Basement was my playground.  I always found the hottest labels (BCBG, Earl Jeans, Nicole Miller, Theory, Prada, Donna Karan) at prices that didn’t send me swooning to the ladies lounge.  Filene’s Basement in Center City Philadelphia also featured a fur department--a little something for the wealthy who appreciate a bargain. 

During a long-ago morning commute a big rusty smudge attached itself to my freshly dry-cleaned beige slacks.  I had an important meeting that day, so it was Filene’s to the rescue.  I dashed to the store that was three blocks from my office and bought a pair of dependable black pants.  Filene’s motto should have been, “here I come to save the day,” but my buddy Mighty Mouse had a lock on it.

The end of an era came much too soon.  I loved the stores in Washington DC, where I scored great stuff like silver star-studded Converse, a Vivienne Tam Mod-inspired black knit tunic, and a cute color block dress that screams for 60s-style go-go boots.  I’ll always cherish the retail therapy sessions that Filene’s offered.  A moment of silence, please.

Shooting Stars

These cute Anne Klein shoes remind me of shooting stars--those silver streaks that light up the black night sky and delight skygazers everywhere. They'll add sparkle and excitement to dark chilly evenings and brighten up abbreviated winter days.  I want to wear them with everything, but if I don't respect this heel height I'll become a falling star!

I Am Not My Hair

The tribal love rock musical “Hair” is coming to Philadelphia in January. The lyrics of the title song fit this hair show post better than spandex on J. Lo’s hips. Here’s what composers James Rado and Gerome Ragni wrote in the mid-1960s:

“There ain’t no words for the beauty, the splendor, the wonder of my….HAIR!! I want it long, straight, curly, fuzzy, snaggy, shaggy, ratty, matty, oily, greasy, fleecy, shining, gleaming, streaming, flaxen, waxen, knotted, polka dotted, twisted, beaded, braided, powdered, flowered, confettied, bangled, tangled, spangled, and spaghettied!”

Check out this display of Black creativity, enjoy one of our unique avenues of self-expression. This slide show will either leave you speechless, gasping for breath while laughing hysterically, or muttering “damn, wow, or oy.”

You can access the show at this URL:  http://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/style/the-20th-annual-golden-scissors-awards/2011/12/12/gIQAq2PJqO_gallery.html#  My only caveat for you, dear reader, is don’t try this at home!
 

Paint it Black, or Blue, or Green

Guys! Whether you’re nurturing your inner Jean-Michel Basquiat or slapping a fresh coat of Eggshell White on the back door, hang onto your paint splattered shoes.  Distressed boots and brogues that look as if you tripped over a bucket of Sherwin Williams is the latest baffling fashion trend for men.  Check out this post from stylesight.com for more.

Dressing Ann



Ann (center) with her family

My friend Ann had two events to dress for--a dinner for Living Beyond Breast Cancer where she was being honored, and the Action AIDS 25th anniversary celebration. She didn’t have anything in her closet to WOW ‘em and needed to shop. She trusted me to glam her up for both events.

I found a gorgeous black taffeta cocktail dress and matching evening coat at The Wardrobe Boutique for the dinner. She felt sleek and composed in the ensemble and saw it as a canvas for eye-catching accessories. In the Boutique’s designer room I found a pair of fabulous black Ralph Lauren pumps with a 3” heel that pulled the look together perfectly.

The invitation for the Action AIDS 25th anniversary celebration recommended “festive attire” which could be anything from a simple magenta feather boa to a studded patent leather suit. Back at the Boutique I found two options--a 1970s Superfly-inspired zebra-striped maxi coat, and a beautiful black velvet cami with a matching jacket sporting a maribou feather collar. She chose the black velvet.

Ann was thrilled to show her glamorous side. Check out the photos—see how she shines!
 



Ann and her friend Sue before the Action AIDS event



Bootylicious!

Remember when booties made you think of babies?  Grandma usually crafted those tiny hand knit confections. 

Today’s booties have grown up.  The best booties are fierce and come in an amazing array of styles.  They sport features like fold over cuffs, buckles, studs, and zippers.  You can find them in a broad variety of materials and textures including suede, lace, satin, and leather.  They’re available with crepe soles, peep toes, platforms, wedges, and stacked heels high enough to cause a nosebleed.  Most common are the numbers with stiletto heels that could impale a Frankenwolf monster with ease.

Today’s booties are sexy! They show off shapely, well-toned calves while keeping your tootsies warm.  Just make sure that you’ve got colorful tights to pull the look together, or pair them with your favorite jeans.

I got two pairs of booties this season that you’ve gotta see! My go-to booties are a sleek black pair from Sofft with a sassy button-adorned cuff and an incredibly comfortable inner structure.  They make everything look fresh and gives an edgy time stamp to the classics. The sumptuous brown suede bootie is from Naturalizer and features an adorable lace-up side detail.  It’s also got that cushy N5 comfort system, so I can be fierce without frowning. 

I’m strutting my stuff in these fabulous shoes this season.  Run out and get yourself a pair! You can find them at every price point, at every store and e-tailer, by every shoemaker.  If you don’t want to wade through the crowds at Nine West or DSW, shop online at Zappos.com, Nordstrom,com, or Bluefly.com.

Sock It To Me

I hate having cold feet so socks are a MUST for fall and winter.  Knee socks are best--I need to be as toasty as possible.  Cold feet make me crankier than usual, so gimme my foot mittens!

I love making colorful statements by wearing socks festooned with flying pigs, contented cows, fluffy clouds, giraffes, letters of the alphabet, stripes of every width and color, paw prints, baby chicks wearing glasses, and the see-no-evil, hear-no-evil, speak-no-evil primates. 

The best foot warmers are at Target.  Not only do they hold their own against raggedy toe nails (don‘t act like you‘ve never had them), the elastic remains snug after repeated washings so the socks don’t run down into my shoes.  You can get Target socks with spots, colors, patterns, and seasonal themes (think about a Valentine Day game of strip poker featuring their heart-adorned socks).  You’ll find bargain-priced boot socks to tuck into motorcycle boots, and over-the-knee socks to peek out from the tops of knee high boots. 

So, drop into Target and stock up on some toasted-marshmallow, fresh-out-of-the-oven, steamy-bath warmth.  Down with popsicle toes!

High Style, Low Costs

I read recently that the average American spends about $1,700 a year on clothing.  Isn’t that kinda low?  I know people who spend that in one day!  All it takes is one pair of $500 pointy toe boots and a cashmere coat and you’re done.  But wait...don't women spend more on clothes than men?  And do you spend more if you're searching for a mate?

Contrary to the rumors out there, I do have a clothing budget.  I’m a pretty savvy shopper and I rely on my knowledge of clothing construction, fit, and quality to keep me looking sharp and stylish on a budget. 

Here's a great article with excellent advice on how to think like a stylist, the best fabrics to buy, how to check the construction of a garment, even a brief discussion of the merits of faux suede and pleather.  It’s like having a link to a personal wardrobe advisor.  Read it and you'll shop like a pro!

The Diva Diaries--What Did She Wear?

As Casual Friday followers know, I love getting dressed for work. I cherish these Barbie moments, and see them as a fabulous means of self-expression.  Here's my narrative for the work week ending November 4th.

Monday, October 31
Thirty-seven degrees at 7:00 AM on Halloween--BRRRRR!  I’m bundling up in a pair of dark chocolate J. Crew boot cut corduroy jeans, and layers which include a lightweight J. Crew cream-colored ruffled Henley shirt, and a cuddly oatmeal cashmere cardi from the late, lamented Center City Loehmann’s.  My top layer is a figure flattering pale caramel herringbone wool blazer from the gratis clothing collection curated from The Career Wardrobe.  (The jacket was destined for the Salvation Army because it was donated off season, and the off season inventory room was packed tighter than a Tokyo subway.)  I’ll tie a cherry red cashmere scarf around my neck and pull on a pair of brown leather gloves to block the frosty air.  I’m bottoming off the outfit with caramel colored suede and leather Van Eli urban cowgirl boots.  Hey now!!

Tuesday, November 1
Another chilly autumn morning--46 degrees--but less shocking than yesterday’s 36 degrees.  My indoor layers will be lighter today, so I’ll need my beloved black leather Kenneth Cole car coat for the commute.  I bought it in 1997 and it’s heavy, warm, always appropriate.  I’m planning to wear a fitted Boden seal gray felted wool jacket with cabernet velvet trim under it.  Under the jacket there’ll be a sunflower yellow long sleeve J. Crew tee that will brighten my skin tone and mood!  I’ll pull on a pair of Max Studio slate gray jersey flare leg pants for effortless Charlie Girl chic, and a pair of Van Eli black kitten heel ankle boots.  I’ll top it all off with a gorgeous silver, burgundy, and black knit scarf from Ten Thousand Villages which reminds me of rose petals strung together.

Wednesday, November 2
Another chilly morning with a promise of warmer afternoon temperatures.  I’m attending a dinner event this evening but don’t want to be exceedingly daring during the day.  So, I’m pulling out a dark red knit INC jacket with a power ruffle down the front.  Got it last year at Macy’s, and wore it for my January appearance on the NBC10 Good News program.  It’s one hellvua conversation starter and the top layer over a close fitted long sleeve gray/red/black rock chick t-shirt, and a black mid-calf pencil skirt that I bought in Montreal a couple of years before Mad Men.  Sofft high heel black booties will make their debut today.  I’ll wear the lovely silver, burgundy, and black scarf at my neck again; it seems to complement my entire autumn palette.  You know, as much as I dread the fall-to-winter transition, I’m weathering it well this year thanks to a delicious collection of chic jackets and soft, cozy sweaters curated from my fave resale shops during the past year.

Thursday, November 3
Forty-six degrees this morning.  Attending a conference today--I’m in businesswoman mode.  Completely grayed out in a sexy Max Studio tweed trench style jacket with a self-belt and ¾ sleeves over a Calvin Klein v-neck sweater dress with a fitted bodice and flare skirt.  Both items were purchased from the Center City Loehmann’s. Today’s accessories include gray sweater tights, a gorgeous bronze ceramic bead necklace from Ten Thousand Villages, and the ever-present red cashmere scarf.  I’m carrying a pair of fierce black booties to slip into when I get to the venue--I’ll be commuting in flats.  Oddly enough I’m not wearing a single item from a resale shop today!  Does this mean that I’m a little less myself??

Friday, November 4
Casual Friday.  I LOVE Fridays!  I LOVE denim!  Denim in the workplace can be totally appropriate if you put some thought into it.  Think twice before putting on sweatshirts, track suits (even if your sneakers match), t-shirts with the words "state property" slapped across the back, and acid wash jeans. 

Today I’m wearing a denim maxiskirt with a front pleat and flared hem that I bought at Daffy’s before their inventory took an unfortunate turn for the cheap and cheesy.  Underneath I’m sporting black and white paisley tights and Sudini walkable black knee high boots. On top I’m wearing a dark gray J. Crew long sleeved tee with a skinny pewter belt from the LL Bean Signature collection.  Keeping warm in a black hand knit cardi that I got at a resale shop in South Philly.  What makes this cardi special are the rows of “poodle loops” at the cuffs, across the shoulders, and at the hem.  Reversible J. Crew two-toned gray cashmere scarf at the neck.  Big Red handbag carried the daily supplies.  Happy Friday!

Pass the Peas

The peacoat is as much of a fall classic as back-to-school, pumpkin carving, and putting up with opinionated drunken in-laws at Thanksgiving. Also known as the “Jackie O” coat, it is timeless. I scored this luscious chocolate brown classic at last year’s end-of-season outerwear sale at The Wardrobe Boutique. It’s a plush wool/cashmere blend, and goes with most of my fall/winter pieces. 

This jacket reminds me of the days when I explored the world as a curious twenty-something woman. My black pea coat accompanied and protected me everywhere I went—to work, on dates, running errands, hanging out with other underemployed friends. I wore it until the lining was in shreds. Needless to say, I’m delighted to have another pea coat and can’t wait to snuggle into it!

Au Revoir, Mon Amie

It was an outrageous find—a black pleated wool crepe Chanel skirt.  Gold plated buttons with the trademark interlocking “Cs.” Originally sold at Nan Duskin, the legendary women’s clothing store on Rittenhouse Square that specialized in the exceptional, exclusive, and expensive.  I was dazed and amazed to find it while browsing through my neighborhood Village Thrift Store a few years ago.  I immediately yanked it off the rack and tucked it under my arm.

Can you imagine?  Chanel—the epitome of aspirational brands—at Village Thrift!  French chic, classic lines, sophistication.  Rich fabrics and construction that justify the lofty price tags, here in my scruffy little ‘hood, with a $5 price tag!  Be still my heart!  I tried on the skirt in the store over my jeans; it fit well enough to buy. 

The skirt was flattering and added an extra swish to my walk.  It looked great with silky blouses, cute little sweaters, and fitted jackets.  Worn effortlessly from day into evening with a simple accessory swap.  I got tons of compliments wearing that skirt, and I always enjoyed sharing where I found it and what I paid for it.  I don’t know how many people I converted to thrifting, but that purchase certainly cemented my deep and abiding relationship with consignment, resale, and thrift stores.

It was recently attacked by a group of hungry moths that left it looking like Bonnie and Clyde’s sedan after the shootout. As a result, it will be going to that big cedar closet in the sky. Au revoir, mon amie, and many thanks for the brush with the inimitable Coco. 

Let’s Hear it for the Boys

In the 1980s I curated a collection of men’s white tuxedo shirts from thrift stores that I wore tucked into everything.  Men’s white Hanes tees were a staple of my casual wardrobe.  I was thrilled when I learned to tie a tie.  I wore tweedy men’s jackets and topcoats, including an oversized black tuxedo jacket that reminds me of Ricky Ricardo, and a beloved brown wool tweed 1950s-era coat with leather buttons.  So, imagine my unadulterated delight with one of this fall’s hottest trends, borrowing from the boys.

Menswear. The Dandy Look. Think of Katharine Hepburn, Marlene Dietrich, Annie Hall, Jonelle Monae.  Remember how fabulous Julie Andrews looked at dinner with James Garner in Victor/Victoria wearing a tuxedo with white tie and vest, cuff links, and boutonnière?  How about when she donned a charcoal pinstriped suit with a white dress shirt and orange paisley tie?  Incredible, indelible style images.

This look capitalizes on floppy bowties, slim or flowy trousers, silky shirts, vests, and oxford style shoes or loafers.  Raid your man’s closet if he’s got an item that you covet. Consider tailored pantsuits paired with feminine accessories, or items in traditional tweeds, pinstripes, or plaids. 

Wearing clothes cut for a man requires a shift in perspective and lots of attention to proportion.  It’s a good idea to have a tailor handy if you’re planning to shop in the men’s department.  The boy’s department may be a better option if you’re slim.  Try out several different pieces to find what works best for you.  Start slow--layer a tweed vest over a white button down shirt, or just slip into a pair of Bass loafers.

So, dive in, and keep it girly with a slick of bright red lipstick.  You'll be the talk of the water cooler!

Happy Birthday To You

My Mother and Me

Today would have been my mother's 87th birthday.  I last wrote about her on my birthday in April, but there was more to say...so here's another tribute to this fabulous woman.

I learned about the timeless beauty of blackness and black culture from her.  Because of her I heard the poetry of Paul Lawrence Dunbar, and learned the lyrics to the black national anthem, “Lift Ev’ry Voice and Sing.”  She and I were frequent and enthusiastic patrons of the historic Howard Theater in Washington DC, and were riveted by the electrifying live performances of James Brown, Little Richard, The Temptations, and many, many others on that stage.

Because of her love of music our house brimmed with the musical power and sass of Ruth Brown, BB King, Billy Preston, Ray Charles, Dinah Washington.  Our Sunday morning soundtrack often featured Mahalia Jackson, Sister Rosetta Tharpe, The Edwin Hawkins Singers, Aretha’s “Amazing Grace.”  Gray days brought Jimmy Reed into the mix.  Our stereo often blew the roof off the sucker; she predated Spinal Tap by “turning it up to 11.”

She loved to laugh and from that I learned that there is joy to be found everywhere.  She was an easy giggle and one of my favorite audiences. She laughed as hard as I did at the antics of Bugs, Daffy, Wile E. Coyote, and Tom & Jerry.  She adored the silliness of The Three Stooges and Benny Hill.

She was an old school romantic who loved vampires (especially Barnabas Collins), Wuthering Heights, and sentimental greeting cards.

She made personal fashion statements.  Made herself a leopard print corduroy pantsuit and wore it proudly at a time when most women were still wearing demure shirtwaist dresses for day.  She entertained in bold print jumpsuits.  Made dashikis for her husband.  Outfitted me in t-shirt dresses and Mexican style-tiered skirts.  Stitched up dotted swiss dresses with Peter Pan collars and back ties, and sweet little pastel dresses to squelch the blue jean-clad hippie chick that was growing in front of her.

She taught me how to walk in heels; how to stand and sit.  She taught me courtesy and decorum.  Most importantly she taught me to be proud, make waves, and always show some spine.

I miss her, and am grateful for her lessons. She taught me never to be ashamed of the little black girl that I was, and I know that she would beam with pride at the woman that I've become.  Happy birthday, Mom!

Cover Your Tracks

“Now arriving on Track 1, Section B is the scheduled 6:27 express to…”  I hear that announcement whenever I’m standing behind a sista with exposed weave tracks. Casual Friday followers know that I’m anti-weave so today’s post should not be a shocker.

Sistas!  If you choose the weave PLEASE check your entire head before leaving the house.  Right after you apply the Pretty Girl cosmetics and run your tongue over your teeth to remove lipstick smudges, grab a hand mirror, hold it to the back of your head, and turn your back to the door of the medicine chest.  Shine a really bright light on to your head and fix the problem areas. I shouldn't see where your hair and weave meet.  And, please make sure that I can’t see your natural naps ‘cause believe me, if the two hair textures are not a good match, there’s just no way that’s gonna look anything but mangy and nasty. 

The mess on your head is distracting.  I can't help but stare at you--for the wrong reasons.  And yes, your "oh, no she didn't" weave will become dinner conversation.

The "It" Bag

Pretty psychedelic, huh?  This grandma-on-acid vintage bag is not the latest Prada, Dooney & Bourke, or Louis Vuitton. This bag has no pedigree, but it has plenty of attitude. The outside feels like an old school chenille bedspread; the inside is lined with a heavy navy blue taffetta that is remarkably still intact.

I nabbed this at The Wardrobe Boutique.  This is my "It" bag for fall.  Love it!!

Loafing Around

Remember back to school time?  If you weren’t outfitted with a pair of brand new saddle shoes with eraser colored soles you probably had a pair of penny loafers.  Didja have a shiny copper penny (or for the big spenders, a nickel) inserted into the coin slot? Yeah, me too. Well, now you can relive those days with this season’s hottest shoe, the chunky heeled loafer.

A perennial preppy favorite, you can find these kicks at any price point.  Makers include Nine West, Marc by Marc Jacobs, Burberry, True Religion, Chinese Laundry, Gabrielle Rocha, and Boutique 9.

Wear them with to work a suit for extra attitude, and pair them with your favorite jeans on the weekends.  You may not be able to jump double dutch in them, but you’ll double your cool fashionista points.

Carmen Jones

Harry and Dorothy

Back in the day, movies about regular folk had style and elements of glamour.  The stylish 1954 Otto Preminger film Carmen Jones inspired me with an all-black cast led by the fabulously talented and gorgeous Dorothy Dandridge and the still smokin’ Harry Belafonte.

Carmen Jones is a sexy, tragic love story where the lead character seduces, abuses, and subsequently drives a naïve young army pilot mad. Years earlier, Oscar Hammerstein, Jr. had taken Georges Bizet’s Carmen, switched the story's focus from 19th century Spaniards to World War II blacks, and the locale to a Southern military base.

As Carmen Jones, Ms. Dandridge is as sultry as a mid-August day. She struts, flaunting and taunting, heating up the screen while she flirts shamelessly with her prey and her film audience.  Ms. Dandridge is rarely mentioned as a style icon; other black stars such as Diana Ross or Lena Horne are usually cited.  But, as this film shows, she absolutely had the stuff.

Check out this 2009 post from the "Gettogethablog," and read more about this slice of black Hollywood glamour. And if you haven't seen Carmen Jones, what are you waiting for? Add it to your Netflix queue!

The Blushing Cow

Red is smokin’ hot for fall. It’s the color of passion, and whether is it cerise, flame, cardinal, ruby, or cranberry it is an attention getter. So stoke the fire this fall and stand out from the crowd with a red topper! I’ll be wearing a fabulous red leather coat from The Wardrobe Boutique that feels like it soaked in a milk and honey bath for a week. This tomato red will stand out in a sea of urban black biker jackets this fall and look great with everything!

So, my lovelies, pick up a pair of radish red suede flats, a burgundy blazer, or a crimson pencil skirt. Grab some scarlet lip color and dip into some of that Bettie Page glamour.  Bust out of that shy and retiring box and get your plumage on!

Off The Cuff

Tiffany Cuff Bracelet

An alternative to the jingly-jangly charm bracelets and clickety-clackety of beaded bangles is the cuff.  Big. Bold. Bodacious. Legendary Vogue editor Diana Vreeland was known to wear one on each wrist. Wonder Woman deflected bullets with her cuffs.

Feel like an empress and personalize your look with these statement bracelets. You can find them sculpted, bejeweled, or studded at jewelry retailers everywhere including Ten Thousand Villages, Saks Fifth Avenue, Evesaddiction.com, or Shimmerandstones.com.  You can also find gorgeous tooled leather cuffs that scream hippie chic at Etsy.com.

My favorite is the Tiffany’s “LOVE” cuff that was inspired by one of their 1970s designs (pictured at right).  At $15,000 for the 18K gold piece, it’s absolutely unaffordable for this fashionista but as Debbie Harry once sang, “dreaming is free.”

Don’t Butt In! (Another Summer Style Tip)

Got flashed today.  Not by a creepy old dude in a wrinkled trench coat, but by a middle-aged woman wearing a micro romper and minimal underwear.  She was lowering herself onto a blanket laid out on the grass at an outdoor concert and belly flopped down within a few yards of me with her butt sticking up in the air. The romper didn’t cover her ample bottom so I saw way too much flesh, including those creases that the sun never reaches. It was as if she was sending an invitation.

Here’s another style tip for summer--make sure that your street clothing offers enough rear coverage so that your booty isn’t served up to others. If you want to beat the heat at an outdoor event, nothing beats a lightweight skirt or a pair of cropped cargo pants. Knee length shorts are also hot, paired with a sweet graphic tee or a cool camisole.

Don’t be a bad example; you don’t want someone like me writing about you!

The Atomic Wedgie

Another Wardrobe Boutique find! This shoe added 4” to my height in about 30 seconds.  I always wanted to be tall, and believe that 5’9” would have been my perfect height. My long narrow feet were made to carry a giraffe-like frame, and at 5'5" I’ll take any height enhancement that I can get. 

These delightfully trendy wedges from one of my favorite shoemakers, Franco Sarto, are tricky to walk in but hot, hot, hot! This gorgeous British Tan goes with every single summer item in my closet. I’m cultivating a slow, graceful walk so I won’t go clomping along the city streets, but I have the rest of the summer to get it right. I’m wearing them with flowy longer dresses and occasionally with jeans to work the city girl strut.

Kill the Khakis! (Some Summer Style Tips)

We need some new rules for summer Fridays at the office. Dressing down from Memorial Day to Labor Day has come to mean tossing on a pair of tired frayed khakis and heading out the door. Instead of tossing them on, toss them out! The office fashionista has other options like a cute white denim pencil skirt paired with a cool slim fitting tee or button down. She could also slip into a sleek sleeveless belted sheath dress with a pair of cute flat sandals in a hot color. 

Cropped pants are always appropriate.  Today’s model features a narrower leg than that of a couple of years ago, and they lend a sophisticated, tailored tone to business casual. Wedges, pointy toe flats, espadrilles, or fabulous platform pumps all rock the crops.

Grab a fitted vest and pop it over a longer fitted t-shirt in a contrasting color.  Add a funky beaded necklace. Wear with the pencil skirt, cropped pants, or sleek dark wash jeans.

Speaking of jeans, relegate those faded, torn jeans to clean-the-garage garb. Don’t you dare wear them to work! Invest in a pair of well-fitted (but not skin tight) dark wash jeans.  Skinny or boot cut doesn’t matter, both are current. Pair them with silky, flowy tops tucked into your waistband. And, always wear a belt!  They serve two purposes, to keep your pants up and pull together your look. Just forget about that ancient rule about shoes and belts matching; work the personal style! 

Most important--wear color! We swaddle ourselves in gray and black during the colder months. Summer is the time to bust out in a rainbow of red, yellow, aqua, and green. Choose a lime green bag to wear with your coral dress. Drape an orange scarf over the royal blue tee. Choose a bold print over a dainty one. You'll look gorgeous!

‘Nuff said. There should be enough style tips here to get you through the next eight summer casual Fridays. Call me if you need me!

Dream Come True

Ever dream of being a princess—being swept off your feet by the prince of your choice—Justin Timberlake, Isaiah Mustafa (the Old Spice Guy), or Jon Hamm?  Dancing til’ dawn in Jimmy Choo glass slippers, then being whisked away in a horse-drawn carriage to a storybook castle. Or maybe your dream takes place on the red carpet when you hit your mark for the paparazzi while deftly deflecting Joan and Melissa’s sophomoric snark.

This shimmering taffeta skirt from The Wardrobe Boutique is glamorous, romantic, elegant, and for aspiring princesses everywhere.  It’s lined with a crinoline underskirt for volume. I felt like making an entrance the first time I wore it.  Luckily my carriage did not turn into a pumpkin at midnight.

Sunkist Feet

Who could resist these orange patent leather Unisa sandals?  This is one of my amazing finds at The Wardrobe Boutique. These adorable sandals were brand new and available to the foot-baring public for only $20!  The tropical popsicle-orange is intense but a surprisingly neutral color, and the style rocks cropped pants, maxis, shorts, and casual dresses.  They’re beach ready, whether you’re headed to the Italian Riviera or Wildwood.  I can practically smell the Banana Boat suntan lotion!

Resale Superstar

I love having a hidden stash of treasures that were curated by sorting through piles of donated unusables.  Sensational shoes, beautiful bags, dazzling dresses, and spectacular shirts from The Wardrobe Boutique fill my cramped closets.  I’ve gotten some incredible deals there that are almost too good to be legal.

Casual Friday posts over the next few weeks will feature an amazing item that I scored from the Boutique during the last few months. Enjoy!

Don’t Tell Me Your Secrets

Ladies, ladies, ladies!  It’s hot. The air is thick and spongey. Extra layers can be uncomfortable, but it’s kinda important to wear underwear during the summer.  Manage your assets!  Stop the spillage, slippage, and seepage!

We all love strapless—it’s sexy and cool—but make sure that the ta-tas aren’t too-too. If the top of your dress barely contains your gifts, consider buying the next size up or make an adorable fitted lace cami or funky racerback tank your first layer.

Strapless bras don’t have to be those uncomfortable bandeaus that flatten your figure into a uniboob.  Strapless bras that lift and flatter, add or subtract, can be found everywhere at every price point.

If your dress is white or sheer make sure that the color of your undies match your flesh. How many times have I seen fuchsia panties under a white dress?  Eliminate panty lines with a pair of cute boy shorts.  Trust me, they are way more comfortable than fanny floss, and also work well under a slinky knit dress.

Look sleek, not sloppy, in the sizzling heat.  Keep your cool by wearing the right pieces.

Today's Bodacious Rant

Small busted women unite!  It’s time to start a movement to pay only for what we use.  Everyone knows that the price of a good undergarment has jumped higher than a grasshopper on fire.  Bras that are comfy, cradle and lift the girls to a sexy silhouette often start at $40, but I don’t want to spend $66 for the Natori push up bra, $55-58 for Victoria’s Secret BioFit, or $42 for a strapless Calvin Klein.  Why should I pay more when I’m carrying less? 

Don’t misunderstand--I prefer having toddler girls, not teenagers.  They won’t head as far south.  They’re not ham-sized.  They’re not basketballs.  When I run for the bus the bounce is modest.  They don’t sway erratically when I’m dancing.  They fill out my sweaters and look downright plump in a slim fitting t-shirt.  But shouldn’t my bra be cheaper than Wendy Williams’s or Lil‘ Kim‘s?  And yes, I believe that I should get a discount because I’m not a 36D.  It’s the green thing to do!  I’m using less fabric, so the seamstress will spend less time on my bra, using less energy and reducing the maker's carbon footprint.  Right?

I recently discovered the comfort and lower prices of the Gap and Target bras.  They've got color, lace, bows, buttons, and push-up profiles just like the expensive brands.  If you are of more modest proportions, check them out--you won't be disappointed!

Breakfast at Tiffany’s

Wow!  Has it really been 50 years?  Audrey Hepburn in Breakfast at Tiffany’s entranced us and canonized the LBD as the ultimate in sophistication and glamour.  Ms. Hepburn’s absolutely divine Givenchy wardrobe has been an inspiration to many fashionistas.

Who hasn’t gotten an instant shot of glam from oversized black sunglasses, a sun blocking statement hat, kitten heels, or layers of pearls? With this stuff in your closet, do you really need anything else? 

Coach Update—In Case You Missed It

Coach Duffel Bag

Tired of gaudy logos?  Looking for effortless, timeless style?  Missing the classics?  Get your shoulders ready for this!

The NY Times recently reported that five of Coach’s classic bags (including the duffel, which was discontinued in 1997) are being reintroduced on June 15.  Not by Coach, mind you—gaudy is still the reigning queen over there—but by Net-a-Porter. Net-a-Porter sells super-pricey bags from Mulberry, Alexander Wang, and Proenza Schouler among others, but compared to those four-figure pricetags, shelling out for a classic Coach isn't so painful.

They Say It's My Birthday!

Today is my birthday and I’d like to start the celebrations with a thank you to the woman who made it all possible—my fabulous mother.  Besides the heaping helpings of love, attention and good southern food that she gave me, she instilled in me a love of fashion and a strong sense of self.

My mom made her own fashion statements.  She was a gorgeous woman with great style who taught me a lot about clothes, especially how to choose and wear flattering items.  I thought she was a glamorous as Lena Horne or Eartha Kitt.  She wore velvet coats in the 1940s, sumptuous suede jackets in the 1950s, miniskirts in the 1960s, and outrageous jumpsuits in the 1970s.

She was my style icon—no one else comes close.  She had class, soul, and attitude.  Here is a photo of her from the late 1940s when she was in her early 20s.  Love you, Mom!

Those Were The Days

The 1970s—the decade that keeps repeating itself like a bad burrito.  Saturday night disco fever, bodacious bad-ass blaxploitation heroes and she-roes, and hippie trippy muses have no doubt influenced this season’s fashions.  Look around at the racks of bell bottom pants, flowy maxi dresses, asymmetrical hems, and shelves of platform shoes in your favorite boutique before you tell me that you don’t hear Anita Ward’s “Ring My Bell” playing in your head.  Tie dye, hot pants, spandex, glitter—it’s still here! 

In the spirit of that endless 70s season, and especially for those who survived it, I’d like to rekindle some 70s pop culture memories.  Do you remember when you first heard (or saw):

Music:
50 Ways to Leave Your Lover – Paul Simon
Good Times – Chic
Heart of Glass – Blondie
Rebel, Rebel – David Bowie
Kung Fu Fighting – Carl Douglas
One Nation Under a Groove – Funkadelic

TV:
The Partridge Family
Starsky & Hutch
The Gong Show
The Mary Tyler Moore Show
Charlie’s Angels
Ike and Tina Turner performing “Proud Mary” on Soul Train in 1970

Movies:
Network
Shaft
Superfly
Dog Day Afternoon
Taxi Driver
Woodstock

They say if you remember it, you weren't really there...

…And the Right To Bare Arms

I’ll show you mine if you show me yours!  No, seriously, why are you afraid to let me see them?  Tattoo regret?  Third eye growing out of the forearm? 

I’ve had enough of women hating their arms and staying covered even during the steamy summer months.  Arms have been incredibly useful throughout our evolution.  They connect our hearts to our hands.  We use them to carry overflowing laundry baskets, cradle infants, lift grocery bags, caress lovers.  Our arms are symbols of our strength yet we treat them like naughty stepchildren.  We hide them, bind them.  I recently heard about arm “girdles” and had to wonder about the wearers’ levels of vanity or insanity. 

There is advice everywhere for women who want to hide their arms.  I hear women engaged in arm-bashing.  “Oh, I don’t wear sleeveless dresses any more,” seems to be a more common refrain for women over 30.  We need to adopt the men in Speedos’ devil-may-care attitude and let it hang, droop, and jiggle.  Jiggly arms are not important, and worrying about them keeps us from reaching true fabulousness.

Dancing your booty off at a wedding could mean removing your camouflage cardigan.  And guess what--your arms will be on display.  But check this out, nobody is gonna be looking at them.  They’ll be looking at your ecstatic smile as you lose your inhibitions to the groove line.  Will you keep the sun from smiling on your arms while playing beach volleyball?  When you’re gardening?  Toddlers won't care if your arms are toned or flabby as long as you give them frequent snuggles and kisses. 

If you really want to change the shape of your arms, I can recommend some exercises.  But if you want to engage in more self-love, raise your hand.  Notice that your arm is attached.

You Were Born This Way, So Work It!

Look fab every single day!  My philosophy is that life is too short to be a frump. We have a limited number of years on the planet and a fleeting amount of time to be glam.  Be a sexy, daring head turner now!  When you’re 97 no one is gonna care, but if you’re 27, 37 even 57 you want to look good--everyday.

There are two keys to this concept: accept and love the skin that you’re in, and dress to show off your best parts.  And, yes, you do have best parts.  Here are some tips will take you a long way into the fierce zone.

• Dress for the body that you’re in NOW.  You were born with a basic body type (hourglass, triangle, inverted triangle, diamond, and rectangle--more on this to follow), and you’ve got to celebrate and adorn it.  You can change your hair color, change your eye color, get lipo, but your basic body type doesn’t change!

• Buy clothes that make you feel like a rock star. You know, that outfit or article of clothing that makes you feel sexy, smart, and confident every time you put it on.  Buy things that always make you feel that way!

• Consider your lifestyle when making clothing choices.  Every diva does different things and your clothing choices should reflect that.  You probably don’t need a closet full of business attire if you’re a personal trainer.

• Buy clothes that are a good investment; buy the best quality you can afford.

• Step away from the “final sale” racks!  Those 90% markdowns hanging limply in a back corner at Macy’s are there for a reason--bad designs, outdated styles, uncomfortable fabrics, hideous colors…stop me if I‘m wrong.

• You can wear anything you want as long as it is proportioned to your body.  If it isn’t, get a good tailor or buddy up to a seamstress.

Ever wonder about your body type and how to play up your best features?  Keep reading--by the end of this post you’ll have the info you need to look simply amazing. 

Hourglass - perfectly proportioned as defined by the shoulder to hip ratio, with a well-defined waist.  However, no two hourglass figures are alike.  One could have a longer torso, a higher bustline, or a larger bust size.  If you’re an hourglass you want to show it off, but be sure that you don’t cut yourself in half with belts.  Proportion and balance are important for your frame.  You can look stunning in tailored pieces such as a fitted blazer with an A-line or pencil skirt. 

Triangle - also known as the pear shape. Upper body smaller than the bottom.  You can balance your figure by adding volume on top.  Think about a blouse with ruffles at the neck.  Add bold eye catching jewelry, or an ethnic print scarf.  (Just don’t do it all at once.)  And don’t shy away from skinny jeans!  Just pop on a gorgeous flowy tunic in a favorite print or color to reach your fabulousness.

Inverted Triangle - has wider shoulders, more ample bust, slimmer on bottom than on top.  Your friends probably envy your shoulder line and sexy cleavage.  Consider a little more volume on the bottom.  Patterns, light and bright colors on the bottom are also cool.  Rock a hot pink pleated skirt, or one in a zebra print. 

Diamond - may also be known as the apple shape.  A rounded figure with a fuller bust and mid-section--usually has great legs!  First thing you want to do is show off those limbs, so raise your skirt hem to the knee and buy some sexy heels.  If you want to look taller and slimmer, look for a monochromatic color scheme.  If you want to draw attention away from your belly, look for blouses and jackets that fall below it.

Rectangle - not as curvy, has a somewhat boyish shape.  Stock up on belts; you’re gonna look great in them!  You can also wear those sweet little form fitting jackets with details at the middle.  Check out wrap tops that tie at the waist; empire waists are also good bets.  Drawstring pants can also create volume at the hips, capris will show skin. 

It's easy to be glamorous once you accept that you're already pretty.  I hope that I've pushed you in that direction!  So, get busy and start working it!

Honored

I’m honored to be a volunteer at The Career Wardrobe and The Wardrobe Boutique.  I’m gaining so much from my experience.  Talking and learning from Wardrobe clients, helping the women to get a fresh start with a fresh wardrobe.  Hearing their plans to improve their lives as they re-enter the workplace.

The Wardrobe Boutique feels like home, and not just because there are so many fabulous clothes there!  Melanie and Kerry, the boutique managers, are kind and generous and committed to empowering women.  Read more about the Boutique in my January 23, 2011 post.

The Wardrobe Boutique blog recently featured me in their volunteer spotlight.  I'm thrilled that they have  become followers of Casual Friday, and absolutely delighted to share this article with you.

What’s Your Favorite Color, Baby?

Raf Simon for Jil Sander

On a recent surf through the local HDTV channels I saw something that I hadn’t seen in ages--a color bar test pattern!  The color bar is a perfect illustration for one of the season’s hottest fashion trends. 

Those of you who are just coming out of winter’s gray hibernation were probably shocked awake by explosions of saturated color.  Pulsating rainbows of tropical colors and shrieking neons will keep you trippin’ all summer long.  Designers have gone Crayola crazy.  The best examples include Diane Von Furstenberg dresses and accessories, and Raf Simon for Jil Sander (see pic).

Double Bubble pink, royal wedding purple, chilly cobalt blue, emerald isle green, overripe tomato red, and school bus yellow are all waiting to jump into your closets.  Here’s what cool--color looks great on everybody, you just have to know how to wear it.  Stay away from head-to-toe monochromatic looks.  You don’t want to look like Big Bird, or even worse, Barney.  Brights look best when worn with solid neutrals.  Think about a slinky slate gray silk sheath dress under a fitted tangerine jacket.  Maybe a cloud white shirt with a teal skirt.

Fit and quality are also critical when you’re wearing color.  Color makes cut-rate fabrics look even cheaper, especially prints.  Poor quality color items can fade or run in one washing.  Ill-fitting color garments look even tackier.

If you’re not ready to dive headlong into the multi-hued pool yet, you can add small doses of color to your wardrobe.  Think about adding an orange patent leather tote, a pair of lemon yellow Wayfarers, or a pair of turquoise wedge sandals.  Make your world a brighter place!

We’re Going to the Nudies

The hottest color in footwear this spring is “nude.”  Platform pumps, wedges, and ballet flats can be found in soft shades of blush, ecru, peach and tan.  YSL, Jimmy Choo, Steve Madden, Vaneli, and Miu Miu among others have added these muted colors to their shoe design palette.  Flesh tones are your best bet for versatility, and a gorgeous pair of dusty pink slingbacks would be the perfect compliment for hot shades like kozmic blue, chocolate city brown, stop-in-the-name-of-love red, and fireball orange.  "Nude" also flatters neutrals such as like-a-virgin white, oyster gray, and inky shadows black.

However, in my online searches, “nude” usually doesn’t translate into my skin tone. I would love to find a pair of platform pumps that match my golden brown color.  Where are the sexy ebony, café au lait, mahogany, warm cocoa, or almond colored shoes that reflect the shades of many of world’s women?  I found a pair of Steve Madden caramel colored patent peep toes that are close to my shade, but where is the wide selection of “nudes” for the Roshumbas, Juanitas, LaToyas, and Khadijahs?  Our feet are flesh colored too, but again, it all depends on who defines the standard.

When you're looking for "nude" kitten heels or gladiator sandals, will you be able to find your skin?

Handbags (no Gladrags)

I have three cherished vintage handbags that belonged to my mom.  One dates from the late 1950s, one from the pre-mod 1960s, and the other from the superfly 1970s.

The 1950s and 60s bags are ladylike and proper with these imagined contents: embroidered white hanky, a tube of Revlon’s Cherries in the Snow lipstick, big black sunglasses that made her a mysterious glamour girl, a small hair brush and a compact.

I always thought of the leopard bag (pictured) as her Jackie bag.  She had a sassy little leopard pillbox hat that she often wore with it as part of a “special occasion” outfit.  You know, an adult dinner out, maybe a cocktail party.  Other accessories may have included a fox fur stole and a chunky charm bracelet with a jade heart or glass-encased four-leaf clover dangling from the links.

I coveted the 1970s shoulder bag for years.  She bought it in Vineland, NJ shortly after moving there in 1972.  It was the style of the time—hippie, unlined, tooled heavy leather with leather laces that attached the shoulder strap to the bag.  She carried this bag constantly for almost a decade and I always teased her about borrowing it.  That bag reminds me of her essence—bold, sometimes outrageous, unafraid, and proud.  The imagined contents of this bag would be an Afro pick and car keys, in addition to the oversized black sunglasses, neutral colored lipstick, and embroidered hanky. In her new role as a suburban housewife she also carried shopping lists as well as outgoing and incoming mail retrieved from their post office box.

I haven’t used any of these handbags, but I can’t part with them.  They’re history and they’re style from my mother, my muse.

Spring 2011--Shop Your Closet

Yippee!!  Spring rebirth and rejuvenation are just around the corner, but the fashion theme this year seems to be--wear what you wore last year…and the year before that…. 

I leafed through pages and pages of fashion blogs and magazines, reading the breathless editorials listing everything a woman needs to be on trend this summer.  Problem is, although I liked the trends, I saw very little that was new or fresh. 

My perennial favorites were trotted out (maxi dresses, utilitarian chic, denim, white shirts, ethnic prints), and some traditions have been tweaked, such as the “new” high-rise jean (with waists reaching the belly button) from labels such as Derek Lam and Citizens of Humanity.  Seventies-style bell bottom pants that will recall Lauren Hutton’s long-legged stride, Bianca Jagger’s smoldering glow or Pam Grier’s high kicks are also hot, as is the preppy cardi, and animal prints.

For the trendier reader the newest look in skirts is the “tail hem.”  According to Fashioning.com tail hems, “…fill the void between mini and midi and midi and maxi.” Basically it’s a asymmetrical hem with the back being longer than the front. Think of a shirttail hem and you’ve got the picture.  Is it booty-flattering?  The jury is still out on this one.  But before you slap your plastic on the counter, check out tail hem designs from Etro, Dennis Basso, or Topshop Unique. The longer styles are probably easier to wear than the minis.

Accessories for the season include 70s-style sky high clogs, sophisticated kitten heels, and glam cat eye sunglasses.  Do you see what I mean about the season of nothing new?  So, steam the wrinkles out of your lovely 2009 and 2010 togs, and freshen up your look with a sexy new pair of wedgies or adorable and comfy ballet flats. 

Better yet, bypass the trends and create your own timeless look.  Make Keds classic canvas sneakers your go-to shoe for fleet footed comfort.  They come in great colors and look sleek with skinny jeans, leggings, or slim fitting capris. Wrap your pretty head with an African print fabric. Wear a sari to an evening event.  Brighten your Colgate smile with a femme fatale red lipstick--and make that color your signature. 

My best advice--wear vintage!

Hat Trick

I'm addicted to old movies. Love the melodrama, the larger-than-life personalities, the fabulous fashions. I adore glamor on the silver screen as conceived by early to mid-20th century design luminaries such as Edith Head, Orry-Kelly, and Adrian. 

The appropriately-named golden age of cinema shows us an era in which men (and women) always wore hats in public. Hats were standard items of clothing for rich and poor, and whether you were a gangster, reporter, preacher, or bookie, you never left home without le chapeau.

Some blame the demise of men's hats on JFK, who was topless at his 1961 inauguration. Trendspotters, however, have noticed a slow return to hats as style statements for men.  Chalk it up to the Mad Men influence on contemporary fashion, but I've gotta admit, a man in a fedora can be pretty damn sexy.  A cockeyed oversized baseball cap just doesn't compare.

Check out this slide show from the NY Times. Some of the head coverings are ridiculous, but each one makes a unique statement that will be noticed.

The Wardrobe Boutique--Go There Now!

When I first walked into The Wardrobe Boutique I was ready to surrender my debit card.  Leave it on the counter.  Go ahead, take the money, I’ll sign for whatever.  My head spun ‘round like an LP as I checked out the inventory.  Gorgeous stuff at bargain prices.  Yep, another place to indulge my inner Barbie.  Hmm, let’s see…how many outfits can I create with a slate and silver upholstery print Ann Taylor skirt suit that was on sale for $12.50?  Those teal Banana Republic slacks from the $2 rack would really rock with a pair of fierce red pumps.  And that tweed Brooks Brothers blazer for 50% off?  I’ll unstuffy it and make it look anything but professorial.

The Wardrobe Boutique at 19th and Spring Garden Streets features upscale, up-to-the-minute gently worn fashion that was donated to The Career Wardrobe but are not office appropriate.  Free People.  Joan and David.  Kate Spade.  Prada.  Gucci.  Cole Haan.  True Religion.  Burberry.  BCBG.  A room full of Cinderella bridal gowns and smokin’ evening wear.  Here’s where the frugal Philly fashionista can score some of the best deals in town.  There’s a fun vintage rack featuring items from the 1970s and 1980s. You can find all kinds of accessories--everything from ballet flats to platform boots, ladylike clutch purses to bold psychedelic print totes, funky jewelry, and miles and miles of cute belts. 

A bounty of goodies is added to the inventory daily, so you really need to stop in a couple of times a week.  Bring your best friend on Tuesday, the one who’ll urge you to buy the white leather jacket, and bring your co-worker on Friday.  You know, the one who needs to move her business wardrobe away from the black pants and a top habit.

And, if you’re looking for a no-cost way to change up things in your closet, the Boutique is also a venue for clothing swaps.  Check their website for more details.

So, now that you have one more shopping destination, get going! Shop for a good cause. The super-helpful and knowledgeable staff create a warm atmosphere and they are looking forward to seeing you.  And proceeds from Boutique sales benefit The Career Wardrobe.  It doesn't get much better than that.

The Career Wardrobe

"I'm feeling good from my head to my shoes..."

Give a woman a great outfit and fabulous accessories to wear for an important occasion and watch her confidence grow!  Getting a new suit during a job search makes anyone feel capable, even courageous.  This is the transformative power of clothing, and The Career Wardrobe offers a booster shot of this power everyday to low-income women re-entering the workplace.  Gently used, contemporary suits donated by local business women get a new life there.

I’m a new volunteer at The Career Wardrobe and I’m constantly struck by their commitment to empowering women to succeed in the workplace.  It's a place where women bond, encourage and help each other. Terms of endearment between clients and Wardrobe stylists fly through the air as hangars clatter and piles of suits, blouses, and shoes fill the dressing rooms. The scene is a spontaneous fashion show, smiles widening amid cries of “Girl, you are working that suit!” Hugs are given freely.
 
I love helping someone choose stylish business attire--helping them to create a new self that glows with confidence and pride. Many clients haven’t dressed up in years and are surprised to see how great they look.  I have the pleasure of helping them select the Ann Taylor or Tahari suit, the hot pink silk blouse, the Bandolino pumps. I cheer when they strike a pose in the mirror. Offer encouragement when they feel unsure about their selection, advise on skirt length, debate pant suit versus skirt suit. Push them to add a little nontraditional jewelry.
 
In the end, she walks out the door taller than when she came in. The jukebox in her head is playing Prince’s “Baby I’m A Star,” or maybe Patti Labelle’s “New Attitude,” because she knows that she'll look great at the interview.  She’s seeing herself for the first time as someone with a sense of self-worth and rising self-esteem.  She's wearing a new attitude.